Saturday, March 31, 2012

How can you unite a blended family?

Blending a step family is hard, but there are ways to unite the family. One way is by creating guidelines. As much as we'd like to give our children everything they want, parents later on realize that there has to be a limit and playing favorites is something any parent should avoid. No one likes to say no to their children. But sometimes, a set of rules that will give them an idea that everyone is equal can make a huge difference to the mood and attitude in your home.

One misconception is that after remarriage, parents should loosen up a bit on their children when it comes to discipline. However, all parents should know that children need discipline and structure in their lives and only parents can help them have that. Pointing out what is right and wrong will have a huge effect on them as they grow older, and they will understand later on that you did all that because of love.

Of course, it is not always easy to implement the rules especially when you are a step parent. But, it is important to remember that even though you want to be the "cool" step parent and not the wicked witch, you are still a parent. Be responsible and guide your kids - biological or not - by letting them experience natural consequences for things they do. When you do remind them about the rules, be sure to let them know that you love them.

To make blending a family a success, all parents of blended families should always remember to focus on their marriage first. Although you want to spend time with the kids, partners should also give time for themselves. This will help both parents in keeping the family together and functioning properly. For more information, contact The Blended and Step Family Resource Center.

1 comment:

  1. I concur that staying united as a couple has been the best decision we made. In the beginning it is hard to put each other first, but you come to realise that the other adult in the house is sometimes your only ally.