Most divorce ends up in a bad relationship between ex-spouses, and most of the time its not only the parent who feel the consequences of a divorce but the children as well. You have to face the truth, you and your ex-spouse will continue to be part of each others lives, specially if you have children. With this in mind, this is one of the biggest reason as to why you should maintain a good and friendly relationship with your ex. Below are some steps you can follow in maintaining a good relationship with your ex. Although we say “good relationship” remember, you do not have to be involved in all aspects of your ex's life, since this may become a problem in the future.
- If you want to maintain a good relationship with your ex-spouse, make sure that you update him or her with the current situation with your kids. Withholding important information about your kids to your own is something you shouldn't do.
- Keep an open communication, but make sure that when you talk to your ex, you talk about things about your kids and parenting. If possible, use alternative means of communication like emails, texts or voicemail. If all else fails and it is an emergency, you just have to make that phone call. Otherwise, you can also meet to talk about the current situation of the kids.
Never say negative things about your kids infront of your kids, be respectful to your ex and make sure that the bond between him or her and your kids are maintained. If you have remarried, you should be ready to become a parent for your biological children and your step children remember, your blended family is like all families, it only depends on you on how your relationship becomes.